A.I in Dating Apps = Intellectual Catfishing = Unauthentic
Why Your Genuine Voice Matters More Than Ever in Modern Dating
“A.I is amazing, really helps spruce up my writing. With this newfound (literary) superpower. I am sure to sound super witty.”
I can see the desire and even the perspective where this feels like a clever idea.
But… This is super unauthentic.
“But it’s just a few sentences. Right?” ~ random voice in my head arguing with me so I have an article to write.
Let’s look at why this is such a horrible idea.
The way you communicate is the Flavor of You, the authentic sweet sound of your soul expressing the mixed combination of your senses, your intelligence, your upbringing, and the accumulation of your entire life experiences and knowledge gathered over a lifetime. From the words you use to define your thoughts and feelings, the pacing of the energy expressed in your words, the speed in which your words exit your mouth, and the tonal range from high to low, based on the context of what is and what you wish it to be. These all make up and are a part of your specific flavor, the uniqueness in which makes up you.
Just think about the time you received a text message from a friend or loved one that didn’t feel like it was written by them. Maybe you even messaged to find out or later found out that it was a friend or someone close to them who wrote the message. Think about it, what was so different that you were able to recognize it. How close was that person to the person you were texting?
Now just imagine you spending all of that time getting to know someone and you're on a first date, the entire conversation is just missing that thing, that twang, that tickly little excitement that the text conversation had via messages…
This doesn’t feel like such a big deal for what should be a short conversation before meeting in person to really figure out if you all vibe together, but Start With Me is working on shifting the way we approach dating, the way we connect and learn to understand each other. One of the biggest problems that needs to be solved is the need to kiss so many frogs before you find your prince or princess. One of the fastest ways to fix this issue is to ensure people are truly authentic with every ounce of themselves. From your profile to your communication, we all know the trap of chasing the good life on social media. We aren't looking for a bait-and-switch with our love life. This isn’t social media; this is a place where we expose our souls to strangers and hope our internal flame burns with enough passion and love that they accept us and we accept them.
It’s just my opinion, but mastering your communication is a key pillar to the foundation of learning how to build confidence in yourself; recognizing emotions and communicating emotions. Your ability to articulate is a foundational need to be emotionally intelligent. There is also a major factor that your quality of communication is going to fundamentally influence your ability to flirt, and share your desires, your wants, and your aspirations—your ability to ensure your partner feels safe and fully trusting of the words you use.
Now why Start With Me will never integrate A.I. into the application for users to use is because your ability to communicate to your partner is the most important skill set you will EVER obtain, and every single conversation you have is a practice that grows your experience.
The success of your entire future can be reshaped if you spend the time to really learn how to articulate and communicate.
I understand this could read a bit dramatic, but your passion, your unique flavor of you—this is what is going to be what your future partner falls in love with.
I would like to note that we are not opposed to A.I.; in fact, we plan to use it for data analysis. But I want to emphasize we will NEVER use A.I. in a way that takes away from the authenticity of the individual person.
We strongly believe everyone is a beautiful and individual soul. If you lack the confidence to communicate while using our platform, we encourage you to use it as a chance to measure your ability to communicate and flirt. The effort you put into your communication might just be the passionate difference between a date and a new match. To support this, we are committed to creating and sharing content that empowers you to strengthen your communication skills and build authentic connections.
Here is a great interview of Jordan Peterson talking about the power of being able to articulate. This article's message is not oriented to a single sex as the video emphasizes a message-oriented to men; it applies to both men and women and anyone in between. Also, to note, this message that Jordan Peterson delivers has no direct correlation to dating apps or love, but it’s a very well-said statement on the reason why becoming articulate is such a powerful skill set.
Worth the listen, in the end, Jordan does provide a great formula for having a great, interesting conversation with a stranger on a date.
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Fun Experiment - This version is the a.i version of this article.
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Why A.I. Can’t Replace Your Authentic Voice in Dating—or Life
"A.I. is amazing—it helps spruce up my writing. With this newfound (literary) superpower, I’m sure to sound super witty."
We’ve all had the thought: Why not let technology make life a little easier? But when it comes to relationships—especially dating—using A.I. to enhance your communication may do more harm than good. Here’s why:
Your Voice Is Your Superpower
Your communication style is the Flavor of You—a one-of-a-kind mix of your personality, senses, upbringing, and life experiences. From the words you choose to the way you phrase them, your unique tone is the very thing that captivates others. It’s not something A.I. can replicate without losing the soul of what makes you you.
Think about a time when you received a text from a loved one that didn’t feel like it was written by them. Maybe someone else sent it on their behalf, or the tone was just off. That sense of disconnection? That’s what happens when you outsource your voice.
The Dating Disconnect
Imagine meeting someone in person after chatting online. Your date doesn’t match the vibrant, witty energy of their messages. Instead of feeling the spark you anticipated, the conversation falls flat. It’s a bait-and-switch that leaves both people disheartened.
One of the fastest ways to fix this? Authenticity. From your profile to your messages, showing up as your true self makes all the difference. We’re not looking for a social media highlight reel in our love lives. Dating is where we expose our souls to strangers, hoping our inner light burns brightly enough for the right person to say, Yes, I see you.
The Art of Communication: Why It Matters
Mastering communication isn’t just about dating—it’s about life. Learning to articulate your thoughts builds confidence, fosters emotional intelligence, and strengthens connections. When you’re dating, your words create the foundation for trust, understanding, and even flirtation.
At Start With Me, we believe this so strongly that we’ve made it a cornerstone of our philosophy. We’ll never integrate A.I. into user interactions because your ability to communicate authentically is the most important skill you’ll ever develop. Every conversation is practice, and every practice shapes your future.
Your Authentic Voice: A Key to Finding Love
It might sound dramatic, but your unique voice is what your future partner will fall in love with. Passion, vulnerability, and honesty can’t be faked—and why would you want to? When you strip away the layers of curated perfection, what remains is your soul’s true expression.
We understand the appeal of A.I. It’s a phenomenal tool for things like data analysis, and we plan to leverage it in those ways. But when it comes to building connections, authenticity reigns supreme. That’s why we’ll never use A.I. in ways that diminish the individuality of our users.
Building Confidence, One Conversation at a Time
If you’re nervous about communicating on our platform, see it as an opportunity to grow. Each interaction is a chance to measure your progress, refine your skills, and find the courage to be yourself. The effort you put into communicating might be the spark that turns a conversation into a match—and a match into a life-changing relationship.
To help, we’re working on creating content that will teach users how to communicate better, flirt more confidently, and connect on a deeper level.
Worth Listening: A Formula for Great Conversations
Here’s an inspiring take from Jordan Peterson on the power of articulation. While it’s not specific to dating, his insights offer a fantastic formula for making conversations interesting—whether with a stranger or on a date.
Watch here: Jordan Peterson on Articulation
Final Thoughts
If you’re tired of kissing frogs, Start With Me is here to change the game. By encouraging authentic communication and fostering emotional intelligence, we’re creating a platform where real connections thrive. So ditch the filters—your unique flavor is more than enough to light the way to love.